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I'm often asked about Thai women and to be perfectly honest, it gets rather tiresome
reading the same misconceptions over and over again on countless websites, forums and blogs, most of which are perpetuated by clueless bar stool expats or 2 week holiday experts. If you're smart enough to be using a computer to find this article, you should be smart enough to think for yourself and put aside what you think you know. Here I will address some of the most common and absurd statements made about Thai girls...
'Thai girls have no interest in Thai men and are desperate to find a Foreign Romeo"
Nonsense. If you saw some of the aged losers that live in Thailand and embarrass us all, you'd be asking why on Earth Thai girls would have any interest in us foreigners in the first place, compared to our snake hipped Thai male counterparts. While there may be a nugget of truth to the concept that Thai men are a bit old fashioned and chauvinistic, there sure are plenty of good guys with lovely wives and you wouldn't have a chance with their womenfolk. If you believe what you hear the bar girls tell you ('Thai man no good')... then marry a bar girl.
It's worth a paragraph here to talk about high society girls in Thailand.
The gulf between rich and poor in this country is huge, there is no other way to describe it. If you think you're some kind of rich guy in a poor country with your million Baht of savings, think again. The Thai elites are fabulously rich, more so than most wealthy foreigners If you find yourself knocking around with a hi-so girl and have dreams of romance and marriage, you'd better be ready for the family. Generally speaking, you would not be immediately welcomed by the family as a foreigner and it's possible they'll be preventing the relationship, that's if they even know about you... it's also just as likely you'll be kept a secret from the parents, as she's knows very well their reaction could be negative. High society families will often expect their children to marry a Thai and a rich one at that. However, let's be optimistic and your proposal of marriage is accepted, are you ready for the enormous Sin Sodt (dowry) you will likely be required to pay? Millions of Baht could be asked for. In Thai culture, you have to show you are suitable marriage material in terms of wealth and social class and you can be sure of having to pay a handsome sum of money if you're to marry into a wealthy family... are here lies another myth, that you can whoosh any Thai girl off her feet with what you think are your good looks and overseas salary. Hi-so Thais are rich beyond your wildest dreams, be in no doubt about that.
'You can approach any Thai woman and pay her some money for sex'
This is probably the biggest clanger of them all, usually propagated by working class idiots in the West, who only spent a two week holiday in Pattaya. In truth, if you we're to offer a non bar girl money for sex, it's more likely she'll call the police and have you arrested. You won't make any friends in Thailand by spreading such nonsense. Contrary to what certain types of tourist think, it is also NOT acceptable to touch or grope a Thai girl in a public place and doing so will get you into hot water... (See Idiot Foreigners).
'Thai girls love money... They'll bleed you dry if you're not careful'
It's unfortunate for newbie arrivals in Thailand, that they will often seek advice from the wrong people, usually some crusty old sexpat who's been there, seen it and done it all in Thailand (according to him). In fact, it's more likely he's taken zero interest in his environment, except for his narrow tunnel vision view of Pattaya or Sukhumvit and only sees ordinary Thais when they walk past the entrance to the beer bar he spends his life in. He probably can't even communicate in Thai, although he'll claim his handful of well rehearsed standard Thai catchphrases makes him fluent... and then Khun Newbie sits at the next bar stool for a beer and listens to the exaggerated stories of how Thai girls robbed him blind etc etc.
In fact, all countries have their fair share of Gold diggers, including Thailand... but in truth, most stories of lost fortunes come from silly old fools that married a girl from a bar without even getting to know them first. It's truly amazing how many foreigners are trawling the bars in search of a wife and like many short cuts, there is a price to pay. If you want to find the sweet, wholesome girl of your dreams, stay away from the bars. Learn to speak Thai. Stay in Thailand for a long time, giving you the opportunity to meet the right girl and get to know her... but you knew that already, didn't you?
If you spend your life in Farang bars with sexpats and prostitutes, you'll never advance yourself in this country and you'll always be clueless. A good Thai girl will always be looking out for your best interests and taking good care with money. Leave these stupid myths with the morons in the bars.
'You can find a wife in a day in Thailand... they're desperate to marry you!'
Why on Earth would you believe this rubbish?
For a start, the culture gap is vast, truly vast. If you think you can come to Thailand for a short break and find a suitable mate in 2 weeks, you need your head examining. Failing to appreciate the fact that you know NOTHING about Thai girls and the way their heads are wired up is pure folly and your heading for trouble and heartache.
Most foreign men think the girls here are just sexy little versions of the girls back home. Of course, Thailand is different in just about every way imaginable, including the people, their attitudes to relationships, morality, loyalty, money, sex... you name it, they have their own way of thinking, period. To a lot of Thai girls, a lie is just a different shade of the truth. That doesn't mean they're all liars, of course not, just an example of how different the mindset can be.
What does all this mean... simple, you're just not going to learn about all of this in a day. You need to spend years on the ground in Thailand, living with Thais, dating your girlfriend, learning about the culture etc before you are going to have any hope of coping with the culture shock of having a Thai wife.
จิตใจที่ยิ่งใหญ่วิพากษ์วิจารณ์ความคิด
จิตใจสามัญวิพากษ์วิจารณ์เหตุการณ์
แต่จิตใจที่ต่ำต้อยนั้นวิจารณ์เพียงผู้คน
On the other hand, you can just go ahead
and be lucky !!!
The world might be your oyster
but you might not get its pearl...
chitchai thee yingyai viphakvicharn khwarmkhit
great minds discuss ideas
จิตใจ สามัญ วิพากษ์วิจารณ์ เหตุการณ์
chitchai samarn viphakvicharn hetkarn
tae chitchai thee tarmtoy nan vicharn phiang phoo
khun
but small minds discuss only people
Great minds discuss ideas
Average minds discuss events
Small minds discuss people
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