Miss Singapore Finalist 2008

HER eyes gleam for a moment under her dark lashes and her voice hardens.

Valentane Huang says she doesn't care what people think, and it's difficult not to believe her.While others may be more circumspect, the 25-year-old Miss Singapore World 2008 finalist coolly reveals that she has had 50 boyfriends.She has been dating for just over 10years, since she was 14.'That's just five in a year - about one every two months - not too much,' she added.It is all part of growing up, she said. There is gossip. But she pays no attention, she said.At first glance, hers seems the typical story of a spoilt little rich girl who played a bit too hard.Valentane, or Val as she prefers to be called, said she works as a logistics manager in her father's company. And she wasn't hiding her wealth.She looked immaculately groomed. A Yves St Laurent chain dangled from her Samsung handphone. Her car key unlocked a black Mercedes S300, which was her ride on Wednesday, when she met The New Paper on Sunday.She pulled back her sweater to show this reporter a gold Rolex she said was worth $30,000. A gift from her father.At home, she claimed she has two more Mercedes-Benz cars. She would have driven the convertible, but she had come from the office, and her father - the boss of a property company here - considers it 'inappropriate for work'.

TROUBLE AT HOME

Growing up, she had everything, materially. But her childhood wasn't exactly idyllic.Her parents divorced when she was 9, having separated three years earlier. And she felt 'glad' at first.When they were married, her parents were strict, the sort who would put her and her three siblings through lessons - ballet and piano in her case. (She dropped ballet because she was too chubby).'Then, suddenly, freedom,' she said.And loneliness.The family was big but each member lived his or her own life, she said.Her older sister was taken care of by her grandparents. Her older brother by a nanny. Her parents divorced shortly after her younger sister's birth.Only Valentane was looked after by both parents, at least for a while.She has lived in two worlds. One is her father's Bukit Timah three-storey house; the other, her mother's Clementi four-room HDB flat.Her mother had walked out on her father and the life of a rich tai-tai for reasons Valentane said she couldn't understand at first. (Valentane did not say what they were, but she said they did not include adultery.)As a 12-year-old she said she chose and registered herself in secondary school and bought her own books.She said she deliberately chose a secondary school which she thought had a poor reputation, as a cry for attention.Her mum said go ahead. Her father simply rolled his eyes, she said.Then there was the time she picked up a cigarette and smoked in front of her dad. His reaction?He recommended a better brand.'Dad tends to spoil us so long as we don't disgrace him or bring him a bad reputation in a major way,' she said.Her father was aware of all her boyfriends. She said he didn't mind as long as she didn't get pregnant.She said the vast majority of her relationships, many of which lasted three months to half a year, were non-sexual. Most of the men she didn't even allow a kiss on her cheek, she claimed.'I'm not saying I'm a virgin. I'm just saying I did not have sex with most of them.'One-night stands are definitely out. 'That's so degrading!' she yelped.Her record is five boyfriends at the same time - but she said it was just 'dating' and all five were aware she was not 'exclusive'.Not all her boyfriends liked that.The craziest case was an architect. He was 27, and she was 17 or 18. He had asked her if he was the only one. She said no.He wasn't even one of her favourites, she told him.He snapped and started stalking her.She claimed she had to call the police, and get a restraining order on him.'I learnt that I cannot be too honest with guys,' she said.She declined to put us in touch with any of her former boyfriends.After we asked to speak to one of her family members, a woman, who said she was her mother, called us.She identified herself as Madam Huang, 53, a manager at a Chinese restaurant, and said Valentane had taken her surname after the divorce.About her daughter's many romances, she said in crisp Mandarin: 'I know she has had a number of boyfriends. She talks to me about them sometimes.'But I know she's independent and strong-willed and she knows how to take care of herself. I have a lot of confidence with her.'If she is not happy in a relationship, she'll leave.'Valentane said most of her boyfriends were upper class, country-club types, children of rich parents, like her. Lawyers, architects, doctors and so on.She said she keeps most of the presents she gets from boyfriends, including a gem-encrusted Rolex watch, but she claimed she returned an unlimited Amex credit card without spending a cent on it - and a Mercedes.The three she has were bought with her own, or her father's money, she claimed.She has also dated guys who are not as well-off. But it never works out, though she's not a 'typical pampered rich spoilt snob'.She knows Spanish but the language she is most comfortable with is Hokkien. As a logistics manager, she spends a lot of time with drivers and that is their language.She was wearing a $25 top and said she sometimes shops at This Fashion.

EGO ISSUES

The problem is the men's egos. She remembered how poorer boyfriends would refuse to take her convertible, even when she offered to let them drive.After one refusal, she remembered she told the guy she was not getting into his small car either.So they took a taxi.Valentane has been single for a year. 'No dating, no boyfriend, no side dating, nothing,' she said.The reason? She just ended a relationship of four years, with a lawyer - her Number 50.'He was my only exclusive boyfriend. For him I dumped all others,' she said.She said they broke up because he cheated on her five times.'What goes around comes around I suppose,' she said, almost wistfully, laughing.

I joined beauty contest because...

'IT'S kind of a shallow reason,' said Valentane Huang when asked why she joined beauty pageants.It was - you guessed it - because of a boyfriend.This one used to boast about dating models, pageant winners, actresses and Valentane said she was the only one who wasn't 'famous' in this area.One day, as a joke, she told him maybe she might win a pageant someday too.'So go ahead and prove it to me,' she recalled him saying.So she went and took part in Miss Singapore Chinatown last November and got into the final five.The 1.7m-tall Valentane, who has modelled part-time since she was 14, decided to join the bigger Miss Singapore World in March.Miss Singapore Chinatown didn't give her a great sense of accomplishment as it was only competing among the Chinese, she said, while Miss Singapore World is multiracial.What does her father think of her participation?'Not encouraging but not discouraging either,' she said.She didn't even tell him - or colleagues, friends and other family members - that she was taking part.He got wind of it only when Lianhe Wanbao ran a story on her and he only brought it up briefly, she said.She recalled how, during the preview shows, the parents and friends of other contestants would shout their support, but when she went on stage it was very quiet.

One forumer described her succinctly;

This kind of girl with 50 boyfriends, or even more, is simply playing hard to catch. She treats males like toys. Just like how playboys treat girls like toys. The only diff is what she said she didn't have sex with most of them. This I do believe, because such girls are not "any riders". They are built in a more complex way than males. Playboys are "any riders". kekekkekekeBut this kind of people will fall when one day they really fall in love with someone. They love challenges. Because the 50 boyfriends to her is like a target or a challenge. If you like her and take initiative, she wouldn't bat her eyelid. Probably you can be her boyfriend, only just for a while. When the excitement goes, there goes. You can start looking for another one.She is the kind where if she takes a fancy on any guy, she will take initiative, and this kind of people will fall when the guy bo chup (cannot be too bothered) with her. That is the kind of challenge that she will look out for. They don't like fish on platter, they like to fish for their food. The harder it is, the more excitement. You can be poor, no car, but if she takes a fancy at you and you cannot be bothered with her, she will start to stick to you like glue. Because she always gets her way, gets what she wanted. If the man is hard to get, she will start to stumble.

Poor little rich girl sure missed out on a lot of love.